I spent a long time in my practice in the late night and early morning focussed on this subject. As always, I sit with it and things start to unfold that I remember seeing and feeling, along with the many mistakes that I never learnt or understood about it. I think its partially as we talk about trauma over and over that it connects us to other human being we share with.

I thought it was a profound thing, but then I realised it was just trauma bonding and that in itself encourages the trauma to remain. Now, after getting…


I saw the picture above and it made me think a lot about where I am. I know a lot of people probably feel like it and are slowly getting their bearings to find their way back to civilisation. I however have got used to the sound of only my own feet, cleaning up my own messes and I’m nervous about socialising again.

Also, in my own little flat I’ve finally got used to my own self. No long haul flight to an unknown part of the world. …


This time around I thought to let people into my business philosophy and the title of this blog. As with anything it came to me out of work hours. It just came to me while listening to my favourite tunes, mostly because of the through line of all my work. Holistic coaching, speaking, activism and musician all involve working with humans and improving things.

All of these things usually involve using my knowledge to create something new, or taking the well known and highlighting the key points through reflection and careful curation. …


For once I saw someone write a status that got me thinking about what has happened in June. Five years ago I attended a brilliant event called TEDxBrum: The Power of Us. I left inspired and uplifted that if a community came together, we can make many changes for the good. The sad flipside is that its four years since the Grenfell disaster where 72 people died in a fire that was preventable and still without any justice or accountability.

I also see how we’re caught up in this duality, bouncing from pole to pole making our own heads (and…


When I think of Pride Month nowadays, I think more of the commercialisation of something authentic than its truest form, time for celebration, protest, reflection and honest being. Some may say that I’m just bitter and I don’t appreciate how far things have come. The truth is I do, but there are still queer people out there who are dying…and a lot of them are black trans women.

I know this isn’t every Pride across the UK or even across the world. I just know there are many stories that still need to be told. …


It took one episode to dissolve what was once a subject observing a royal to just a pair of humans with their own flaws and idiosyncrasies.

As I’ve gotten older, I have become more in favour of being a republic than under our current monarchy, even though I thought the next in line to the throne would drag things into the 21st century as a last gasp.

However I digress…I watched the first episode of The Me You Can’t See documentary series on Apple TV last night where Oprah Winfrey, Prince Harry and a section of people discuss their struggles…


I saw an article about coaching last week in Cosmpolitan. I thought to give it a look just because it’s a wise decision to keep myself informed. I gave it a good read and wow…some really bad experiences and awful treatment. Like any field, you’ll find coaches where they have terrible skills, horrid communication and a feeling where they not only have taken your money but taken your time for granted. So as someone in their third year of practice, I’m finally going to let you into how I work as a business.

I don’t do free intro sessions.

I…


All of a sudden, we’ve reached from a very slow start of the year, the start of Spring. It really feels like we’ve all entered a collective time paradox where everything is a lot slower than usual. It makes myself very grateful for sunshine, the sound of birds and pleasant weather to walk in. However, I owe a lot of gratitude to people who reach out to me during the Winter months.

Mostly I’m aware we’re at the turning point of another year. As much as the media is dealing in doom with the ongoing, I feel a lot more…


I’ve included Patrisse in this series because often the struggles of black lives and the struggles of queer people intersect and often do (Langston Hughes, James Baldwin and Audre Lorde come to mind) but also the movement that she helped found and build along with the movement she co-founded: Black Lives Matter.

I had a chance to meet Patrisse when she was on her book tour for her memoir When They Call You A Terrorist and had a chance to listen her in a Q and A session and a quick meet for lunch the following day. …


When I first saw her perform, I was amazed not only by her poise and skill but her energy that radiated from her. She had not necessarily a ‘rags to riches’ story but a history of hard working parents demonstrating what work ethic means. That example along with her talent grew her passion for both music and acting.

Her acting and music attracted a lot of attention. A mix of childhood imagination, her roots in Kansas City, Kansas and her immaculate tuxedo and coiffured hair always drew me into her performances. …

Aquila Hope

Transformative Coach | Trans Activist + Spokesperson| Musician. I love telling stories and awakening souls to big questions. #embraceinfinity

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